I have been blaming my feelings lately on my "innate human nature"...
Are humans born being jealous? Do people just naturally want what other people have? Is there some way to PREVENT ourselves from constantly comparing our lives to the lives of those around us?
Maybe this is just my weakness that I must keep trying to overcome on a daily basis.
I have come to some conclusions though...
1. Other people will always seem happier, prettier, luckier, skinnier and more in love.
2. Lives are a lot deeper than what they appear. We all have our battles that most often aren't shared with the world through a profile picture or a smile at church. Other people may seem flawless, like they have the perfect life... but that is false. No one does.
3. Sometimes my thoughts are accurate. Other people are "better off" than me. There will be always be people who are prettier, have more money and live "better" than me. That's life, but that doesn't mean it has to affect my happiness.
4. What I need to remember is: there are also millions of people who are less fortunate than me, who would give anything just to have food, a home, a job, and a family who loves them.
So.... I really, desperately want to STOP this whole comparing thing completely. I just want it to go away. I want to be more grateful for my life and the people in it. I wrote this letter to myself in the car last week and I think I should read it often:
Hey Natalie,
Stop wishing you had the life of someone else. Just stop. You were given YOUR life for a reason; to both enjoy it and conquer it. You will have battles. But so does everyone else. Instead of wishing life away, focus on improving yourself. You were destined, and called by God, to be YOU. He doesn't make mistakes. Everything that happens is part of his plan. Your life is a gift; don't let him down by being ungrateful. Don't waste these precious years of your life wishing you could be someone else.
No one can replace you. You have a purpose in this life that no one can fulfill but you. Please just recognize your own beauty, your own talents, your infinite number of blessings all around you. Embrace your life, accept your trials and challenges, and choose to be happy, just being you.
This whole comparing thing? It does nothing but bring sadness, darkness and envy. It does absolutely NO good. So why let it be a part of your life? Start being happy for yourself, happy for other people and let go of all that negativity. The point of all this is simple, really. Be grateful, be charitable, and love your life... You will be filled with a genuine happiness that brings love, freedom and peace.
Are humans born being jealous? Do people just naturally want what other people have? Is there some way to PREVENT ourselves from constantly comparing our lives to the lives of those around us?
Maybe this is just my weakness that I must keep trying to overcome on a daily basis.
I have come to some conclusions though...
1. Other people will always seem happier, prettier, luckier, skinnier and more in love.
2. Lives are a lot deeper than what they appear. We all have our battles that most often aren't shared with the world through a profile picture or a smile at church. Other people may seem flawless, like they have the perfect life... but that is false. No one does.
3. Sometimes my thoughts are accurate. Other people are "better off" than me. There will be always be people who are prettier, have more money and live "better" than me. That's life, but that doesn't mean it has to affect my happiness.
4. What I need to remember is: there are also millions of people who are less fortunate than me, who would give anything just to have food, a home, a job, and a family who loves them.
So.... I really, desperately want to STOP this whole comparing thing completely. I just want it to go away. I want to be more grateful for my life and the people in it. I wrote this letter to myself in the car last week and I think I should read it often:
Hey Natalie,
Stop wishing you had the life of someone else. Just stop. You were given YOUR life for a reason; to both enjoy it and conquer it. You will have battles. But so does everyone else. Instead of wishing life away, focus on improving yourself. You were destined, and called by God, to be YOU. He doesn't make mistakes. Everything that happens is part of his plan. Your life is a gift; don't let him down by being ungrateful. Don't waste these precious years of your life wishing you could be someone else.
No one can replace you. You have a purpose in this life that no one can fulfill but you. Please just recognize your own beauty, your own talents, your infinite number of blessings all around you. Embrace your life, accept your trials and challenges, and choose to be happy, just being you.
This whole comparing thing? It does nothing but bring sadness, darkness and envy. It does absolutely NO good. So why let it be a part of your life? Start being happy for yourself, happy for other people and let go of all that negativity. The point of all this is simple, really. Be grateful, be charitable, and love your life... You will be filled with a genuine happiness that brings love, freedom and peace.
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